how politeness conditioning can lead to confusion about sexual assults

Is there a way to undo the conditioning that compels women to “be nice” at all costs? After all, minimizing doesn’t protect sexual assault survivors from experiencing long-term trauma.

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/how-politeness-conditioning-can-lead-to-confusion-about-sexual-assults/article29294471/

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man or woman? who’s to say | soapboxing

I love this video. Alok Vaid-Menon is a trans/national South Asian writer, performer, and solidarity activist. Alok has organized with racial, economic, and gender justice movements across the world. Their creative and political work grapples with questions of diaspora, trauma, race, and desire. Alok currently serves as a staff member of the Audre Lorde Project, a community organizing center for and by LGBT people of color, and is on tour with DARKMATTER, a trans South Asian spoken word collaboration. You can read more of their work at www.returnthegayze.com

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leigh wall, heavy duty mechanic

I’m so proud of my friend Leigh. Check out this interview she did with Left Field about becoming a Heavy Duty Mechanic. She followed her heart and is proof that women can do anything they put their minds to.

http://www.leftfieldnotes.com/interviews/2016/3/20/batter-up-leigh-wall-heavy-duty-mechanic

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people react to being called beautiful

I found this to be an emotional video and a good reminder for all of us to openly appreciate the beautiful people in our lives.

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tabata songs

I recently downloaded Tabata Songs to play during my workouts to make my interval training more efficient and fun. Tabata Songs are music tracks written, performed, and recorded specifically for Tabata Interval Training (4 minute workouts of 20/10 intervals). Each Tabata Songs track gives you 10 seconds of prep time, with the actual workout beginning at the 10 second mark. They also give you the option to have a coach count you in and out of each interval (“3, 2, 1, go!”) or you can choose to simply follow the instrumental music without a coach. 

The beauty of this exercise music is that you can download it to your phone or ipod and take it anywhere -“whether you are sprinting on a track, squatting in the gym, or curling rocks at the beach.” You don’t have to limit yourself or your workout. “Just press play, Let the music be your coach…”

For more information about Tabata Training and the benefits, please click the following link: http://tabatasongs.com/what-is-tabata/

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how to banish forearm and elbow pain, burn calories, build endurance & maintain muscle while writing

Have you ever dealt with frustrating wrist pain or carpal tunnel or tennis elbow or golfer’s elbow or climber’s elbow – pain that is aggravated by typing and computer work?

Have you ever wished you could walk one, five or ten miles while still being able to work on a book, a project, or a paper?

Have you ever wished you could simply talk your thoughts into existence, and have them appear in your emails, documents, books and more?

Then this podcast episode is for you.

During this discussion, you’ll discover:

-How author Joanna Penn developed chronic repetitive motion injuries in her wrist, and why ergonomic keyboards and an ergonomic computer mouse weren’t working for her…

-Why Joanna decided to go way above and beyond simply using a standing workstation or treadmill desk…

-How Joanna is simultaneously working on multiple books while also training for an ultramarathon…

-Whether you can really, truly be creative while standing or walking, and why it’s a myth that you need to sit to write effectively…

-The exact tools, microphones and software that Joanna has found to work very well for dictation…

-A book that will teach you exactly how to dictate quickly and effectively…

-How to  “train” your computer to recognize your voice and accent…

-How to enhance productivity with ambient noise and focus apps…

-And much more!

How To Banish Forearm and Elbow Pain, Burn Calories, Build Endurance & Maintain Muscle While Writing.

 

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everything you need

The older I get, the more I appreciate the therapeutic value of working outside in our yard and reading a good book. Marcus Tullius Cicero said that “if you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need” and I agree with that. I would just add “good health” and “family” to the list.

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perfectionism

“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.”

Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

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slip: a stunning dance by Phillip Chbeeb & Renee Kester | music by Elliot Moss

“Everyone will tell you it is hard to let go of pain… and it is. Since we were children we have been told to embrace the best of our experiences & disregard the worst… But what happens when the most beautiful memories from our past end up doing the most damage to our future?

How do we let go?

How do we move forward?

The past is comfortable
The past is familiar
The past is the prison I’m fighting to escape.”

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self-esteem: what are you worth?

“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.”
― Iyanla Vanzant

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